To Thine Own Self Be True
by Channing Thomson
(San Francisco, CA, USA)
There is only one way to develop a long lasting relationship -- honesty. Right from the get go, it is important to be honest about yourself, your likes and dislikes, your attributes, physical and otherwise, your desires and interests.
If you start out from a point of complete honesty, you will be rewarded one thousand fold. If you are meeting a person online, you must create a realistic portrait of yourself. If you are a few pounds overweight, say so. Sooner or later, your potential partner will meet you in person and know immediately whether or not you're as thin as a supermodel or as fit as a linebacker.
If you say you're extremely wealthy, you'd better be super wealthy. Your potential partner will know soon enough if you can cover the bills. By being completely honest, your partner will know exactly what they are getting. He or she won't have to dig around to find out what's true or not.
It's really very simple -- if you hate dogs, you'd better let your partner know you hate dogs -- he may be a dog lover and want to complete his life with someone who has a similar love. This is especially true in more important areas like children. If you never want to have a child, you'd better get this out there right away. This could be a real deal breaker so it's better to let your partner know up front.
Basically, you need to be completely honest as does your potential partner. This will get a lot of your differences on the table and decisions can be made as to what each you can accept and what traits may create more difficulties. Remember, be true to yourself and you will be true to your potential partner. Obviously this works both ways and that's where the relationship will spring from -- a place of honesty.
Remember, you don't have to be brutally honest -- always put a good spin on everything, even the somewhat negative things. This will give your potential partner the impression you are an optimist and always looking on the bright side -- which you are, of course!