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Oct 26, 2010
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Always help a true friend
by: surama

A true friend is a great blessing of God. In life we always depend on friends for moral support, sympathy and loyalty.

In today?s world of suffering and misery, a true friend is a boon. Friends stand by you through thick and thin. If you really value friendship then you should always help a friend in need. Friends who stand by you in your troubled times are the real friends.

There should be mutual understanding and one should be ever ready to help the other in times of need. He/She should respect the feelings of other and should place oneself in the position of the other to understand the difficulties. True friends always half our sorrows and doubles our joy.

May 06, 2010
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who is a friend?
by: Anonymous

Shakespeare said, "Neither a lender nor a borrower be." But a great teacher said if anyone asks, give and if you lend do not expect ask for it to be returned.

It is always a difficult to resolve this big question of when or to whom should one lend money. Should we always give what is asked or just what we feel is safe to give, in case there is no way we can think of having the money returned. Are we to judge the person who asks for a loan, even if we know that the person lives lavishly and is insensitive to your own situation and needs?

Anyway, the old adage,"A friend in need, is a friend indeed" defines who is one's friend.

According to the story whose moral this saying is, is about a person who was in need and, for him a friend is one who comes to help him out in his time of trouble. One should be able to tell who one's true friend by his or her willingness to help you out.

A person who is in need is not necessarily your friend. Lending money to any one is all right as long as it would not trouble you if it was not returned.

May 06, 2010
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I would always help my friend
by: minijack

I should and I would help my friend. No matter when, no matter how. I have no doubts about that.

But I don't call every person that I know (or even every person which I like) "a friend". There are pal's, roommates, colleagues and so on, but being a friend means something special to me and that is part of the reason as to why I would always help my friend. Because if there is a special bound which connects me and my friend, others things like money, time, effort ? it all doesn't matter.

I know my friends well and I trust them completely ? otherwise I wouldn't call them friends. Besides, what kind of friend would I be if I didn't help him (or her)? Because I believe that helping, among the others, is the essence of being a friend. Or at least a real one.

May 06, 2010
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Help friend in need but with caution
by: Sarit

We shall definitely help a friend in need but equally important is to understand if your friend is really in need and not a habitual. It is about helping a friend who is really in need and is worth it.

Generally speaking, by spending some time with a friend, one may judge and form an opinion about him and his genuineness in these matters. In any case, it is good to avoid the frauds and help the real ones. If we help friend in need, we have someone to help us when we are in similar situation. It is a give and take world and any right doing is a welcome step as long as it is from both sides.

May 06, 2010
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Helping a friend in need is a must
by: Anonymous

To be in a position to help a friend is better than to be on the other end of the line asking for help, thus when opportunities arise to help a friend I always help them. I try to help people despite of who they are or where they come from.

I live by the old adage stating "do unto others as you want others to do unto you".

Whenever someone is in need of help, without asking I try to help them. More so, if these are friends who are hesitant to ask for help. I enjoy helping them more because as they also appreciate things that I have done.

On the other end, there are friends who take advantage of me. I try to just give a little of my time and effort to these people and refer them to others.

May 06, 2010
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Helping a friend
by: rupa

Friends are the one who move very closely with us than our parents after a particular age. We share all our thoughts, sad, happy and everything to them. So, everyone expects a help from their friend when needs. If we fail to fulfill that, it would disappoint our friend.

However, when helping a friend, it is better to consider the attitude of the person before helping him financially. Because, some friends will be very honest in returning back the money, remember though that "everyone will not be like Robert."

We should help a friend financial only if we are confident that he or she is honest. Otherwise, it is best to avoid that situation by saying some excuses without hurting him or her. This way, it will not lead to the breakup of your friendship.

May 05, 2010
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friend In need is a frien indeed
by: Anonymous

Personally I have very few friends, and I tend not to call them friends, but family. These are people that I trust with much more than money, and so I have somewhat of a hard time relating to this article.

I think another problem is that when I give or loan someone something I only gives as much as I can and never expect them to pay me back. That's just a rule, and I never ask them, if the issue is money, what the cash is for.

True friends don't take advantage of you, and if they do then that person is not your friend. I only draw the line at helping a friend as far as I feel is good for them. Although it is nice to be able to depend on your friend when you are in need, if you develop a total dependency then friendship dwindles, and that buddy of yours who you have is not "that vessel" you only go to because you need something.

May 05, 2010
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Small Tests of Character Help Build Well-Founded Trust
by: Anonymous

I believe the real lesson here is to test whether someone is a true friend in gradual steps, before plunging right in with a $1,500 loan.

If Mary and Robert were really "dear true friends," they would have had a long history of interactions that Mary could have used to make a smarter decision about whether to trust Robert.

She could have seen whether he was prompt about returning the favor for small loans, such as spotting dinner, or if he seemed to mooch. She could have seen whether if they had a disagreement, he tended to be gracious, or (as in the ultimate result) he tended to blow up angrily and blame things on her. She would have learned a lot sooner and less painfully whether he was a true friend or not, without such a great loss.

May 05, 2010
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Be as helpful as possible to your friends
by: Anonymous

I have been in situations when I wanted help from my friends so bad. And when any of my friends came forward to help me,I felt as if Angels themselves have arrived to rescue me!

The one who has gone through crisis and has sort help from someone can only know how important it is to give that help needed by a friend. Your friend may not recognize or be grateful then and there, but he or she will come back to you one day with immense gratitude in his or her heart.
I would advice everyone to be as helpful as possible to their friends.

May 05, 2010
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What goes around comes round
by: chocol8quneen

I am a firm believer in do unto others as you would want to be treated. In life you must take risks, but they do not have to be blind risks.

Access each relationship as you would an investment deal. Ask yourself does this person or relationship enrich my daily life, or is this thing subtracting from my life? Subtracting from my happiness. Thus depleting my resources, never intending to replenish the well.

Yet you pray that should a circumstance come up (we all know that saying about stuff just happening)we should be so fortunate as to have that go to person.

In order to have a great friend you must first be a good friend! So to answer the question posed, yes I do think you should help a friend in need. Be sure about the people who you call friend, because someone who does not have your best interest at heart is easy to spot.

May 05, 2010
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Help a Friend and forget
by: Rakesh

In my opinion if you find your friend is in real need, help should be extended to him. On the contrary if a friend is a habitual cheater we should keep distance from him.

When normally we help our friends by lending money often it happens that money is not returned as committed because our friends take us casually. So if you help your friend by lending some money help him to the limit you can forget about the money.

If your friend is a real good friend he will return his borrowings. Do not help friends who are habitual cheaters because they are not your friends.

May 05, 2010
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Just Be Careful
by: Matt

I think that helping friends is an obligation that all friends have. However, I also think that any true friend would know whether or not he or she should ask another "friend" for money, as the characters in the story did.

While it is important to demonstrate friendship, I also believe that it is even more important to be protective of oneself. If a friend is asking for a lot of money that you know he can't repay, than it is obvious you probably won't see the money again.

Yet there are also exceptions. For example, if you are best friends and know and trust your friend with your life, than lending money or helping out in another way is almost an obligation.

May 05, 2010
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It depends whether or not to help a friend
by: Anonymous

In my opinion, whether or not you should help a friend in need depends on several things.

How long have you known the person? Do you know how trustworthy they are? Have other people helped out the friend in the past and been taken advantage of?

This issue can take some serious thought in my opinion, so if the friend is pressuring you in any way to make a decision, especially if they're asking you for a large sum of money, then you probably should not help them. If you have the money however, and you KNOW them to be a trustworthy person, then it's probably Ok to help them out.

If, on the other hand, your funds are tight yourself, or you haven't known them long, you should follow your gut. If your gut says not to help them, explain your reasons. If the friend gets mad, as in the case of the previous story, then they probably weren't a true friend to begin with.

May 05, 2010
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Would help a friend in need
by: trotsky37

I think that you should be willing to help a friend in need, particularly a good friend. However, this come with one important caveat: if you are going to loan money to a friend, you should be prepared to lose either the money or the friend (or worse case scenario both).

Money and friends are oil and water. Or as Polonius so succintly put it in William Shakespeare's Hamlet, "Neither a borrower nor a lender be, for a loan doth too often lose both the amount and the friend". I would loan a friend some money if they were in dire straits but I would not be surprised if I failed to get the sum back.

In a sense it's like gambling where they say that you should never risk more than you are willing to lose. The same should be true of the amount you loan to a friend. It shouldn't be so much that you can't afford to lose it. In short, a friend in need is a friend indeed.

May 05, 2010
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Weigh the Facts Then Follow What Your Heart Tells You
by: Anonymous

This is always a difficult issue, to help out a friend is fine, there are many ways to do it, but loaning money seems to be the easiest way to end a friendship.

Women do seem to be the victims of people who ask for money with no intention of paying it back. They are easier to draw in with a sorrowful story, quicker to let their emotions rule but men can also fall into this trap.

Closely watch the spending habits of your friend in need, are they really in need or just finding you an easy mark and a quick source of extra cash.

After you have looked into the facts, trying to determine if the need is real, then go with what you gut is telling you. If you have the slightest doubt about the loan, then don't do it. Your friend will find someone else or work out the situation in another way.

May 05, 2010
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Help a friend
by: Anonymous

Yes, you should help a friend in need. Although Mary lost $1500 and while that is a lot of money, at least she found out what kind of person Robert really was.

Personally, I have been in a situation similar to Mary where a good friend had problems finding steady work even though he was a hard worker. Although I only loaned him $500, it was still a great deal of money to me. In my case, Manny not only repaid me the $500 he tried to pay me interest as well, which I refused because he was my friend though I did let him buy me a steak dinner.

And what if the roles were reversed and I needed the money? There is no doubt in my mind that Manny would loan me money if he had it. If you have the means to help a friend then you should do so. If they don?t return the favor or pay you back it may hurt but at least your conscious is clean.

May 05, 2010
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When to Help A Friend
by: Anonymous

I have over the years ended up lending money to several friends, whether it be $10 or a couple hundred dollars, lending money indeed shows you who values your respect and who could care less. As a woman myself, I have been taught from early on to be guarded on all costs.

As a single mother, I have also learned to be tight with my money and spend it wisely. A friend recently asked me for a couple hundred dollars to get a bus ticket home since she was stranded. This is one instance that I feel the need to help and loaned her the money. To my surprise she returned it to me within the week with some interest. These are the instances that bring my faith back into people.

My rule of thumb is when lending money, never expect to get it back. That rule will force you to only lend money when a friend is truly in need, and it will be a nice surprise when the money returns to you.

May 05, 2010
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Help a Friend, but not at your own expense
by: Anonymous

I believe it is always good to help a friend as friends have been very helpful to me at many critical points in my life. I have also been taken advantage of by people Whom I thought were my friends, and like Mary, I might have lost the money or whatever item i lent for good, but I also learned a valuable lesson about someone I thought was my friend.

I will always help a friend if I can, but if I know I am being taken advantage of I wont. If the person is really a friend, I wont lose him.

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