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Nov 07, 2010
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There is Nothing Wrong
by: Joshua

I don?t literally see anything bad doing this otherwise it gives a foundation to a strong bond of intimate relationship.

First, two opposite sexes must know each other better through courting, courting is where they become best friends. They share their future dreams, exchange romantic quotes, poems and even gifts. In this stage of courtship which I term as stage of best friends, it is so exciting. In short, there is nothing wrong in turning your best friend into a lover.

Sep 11, 2010
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My opinion...
by: Anonymous

Well, I'd say it's different for anyone really. But here's my opinion.

I'm currently dating my best friend.
We've been dating for about a year now.
We've broke up once, to save our friendship, but we ended up back together the same day.
But knowing what it'd be like if I didn't have her...

Our friendship wouldn't be the same.
We've both stated we want to remain friends if anything were to happen, but it'd kill me to see her with someone else, and I can't imagine she'd want to come talk to me about going on a date, liking someone, etc... and I wouldn't either.

I don't regret it at all though, I love her more than anything.

It really just depends...

May 06, 2010
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its a good idea
by: mahesh

ya its a good idea to turn our good friend onto a lover because she/he can understand our feelings and touch than any other girl. she is better than anyone.

If she/he becomes your lover, the relation between you people will go to an extreme level. It improves the human values between the two of you. No ego feelings will exist in between the two.

A relation is not between physical existing bodies.It is matching the feelings and emotions between each other.if you want to have sexy and understandable life marry your best friend.

May 06, 2010
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Never A Good Idea
by: Beth

It is never a good idea to turn your best friend into a lover. From personal experience, yes it sounds like a good idea. You can cut through the red tape, you already know each other, and enjoy each others time.

However, most of the fun in the relationship is getting to know your lover.

Honestly, do you really want your lover to be the same person you've gone running to with a broken heart thanks to someone else? That only ruins the relationship by making him (or her) the rebound person, and if you go that far, its hard to see your friend with someone else if things don't work out.

May 06, 2010
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There is always a danger...
by: minijack

I believe there is no one, simple answer to that question. Honestly speaking I think I would never do that ...again.

There was a time when I had a good friend, which finally turned into my lover. We met at university. She had a boyfriend at that time, so I even didn't expect that some day we could fall in love.

However it happened.

At the beginning everything was great - I was in "a heaven".

But after a year and half we broke up and... it was the end for us as a couple, and as a friends too. There was too much feelings involved to pretend that things are just fine, that we still can talk to each other. I have lost her forever, I have lost her friendship.

So, if anybody would like to turn a best friend into a lover there is one basic question which needs to be answered: "Am I looking for love or just sex?" - because sex by itself isn't worth it. Love on the other hand ...couldn't start better than from friendship but there is always some danger.

May 06, 2010
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Yes.. this is a wonderful topic
by: vinay

email:vinay.kandikatla@gmail.com

Yes, it is a good idea to turn your best friend into a lover.

Every person looks for a best for his whole life.

A relation is not between physical existing bodies .It is matching the feelings and emotions between each other.

You only share feelings and emotions with your best friend not with others. If she/he becomes your lover, the relation between you people will go to extreme level. It improves the human values in between the two .No ego feelings will exist in between the two.

Your best friend understands you more than any other in the world.
You will lead a very happy life if you love a person who understands you more than any other.

Finally, Relations are made in heaven.

May 05, 2010
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Yes, Its a good idea
by: rupa

Email address: jyothidam@yahoo.com

It is a very good idea to turn your very best friends to lovers. Because, when we move very deeply with a person, we will know all the inner hidden characteristics of a person. With this, we can judge whether the person is compatible to us or not.

Also, when moving with a person closely, you can change the bad characteristic of that person by giving him some advices. Also, when a close friend turns to a lover, you can feel very comfortable with him making life more happy.

we can pass on our desires to him just by body language or talking a little bit as we will move very closely with our best friend.

May 05, 2010
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Stay Clear, Best friend not a lover
by: snochan15

I'll start off with saying that if you venture to travel down this path, you will never be able to make it to the same starting point.

In high school, I had a best friend from 9th grade up until the near end of 11th grade. Then, he asked me to prom and brought in the question I was almost dreading. "Should we go as a couple or as best friends?"

At the time, I said best friends, and even though later I changed my mind, I wished I would have not done so.

After 4 months, I realized the relationship was just too weird. I was making out with this guy I use to share anything and everything with? I would always dish on guys I liked with him, and now since he was the guy I liked, who was I to talk to?

I had problems talking with my mother at the time, so over-all, I was in a stickler with who to talk to.

Now, after the relationship has been long done with, our relationship has never been the same.

I can barely talk to him about things, it's just too weird, and over-all things seem to be awkward around him.

While I currently am living with the love of my life, encountering exes is never a fun thing, especially when they were your best friend for many years.

May 05, 2010
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Dont ever take that Route
by: Anonymous

While people say it is hard for a male and female to be best friends, I find it extremely possible.

I had couple of best friends who are guys and thinking of making them lovers just creeps me out.

When a person is your best friend, you laugh with him, joke with him, share your thoughts and feelings, but you never go deep to share your innermost desires, which you only can do with a lover.

When a guy is a friend, the expectation levels are so down as a well.But with a lover, expectations sky rocket! The fun, joy soon is taken over by awkwardness and creepiness of the whole situation. What once was a shared joy becomes a source of frustration and you start wishing it didn't happen in the first place.

May 05, 2010
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No Go From Best Friend To Lover
by: juschuck

It takes time to become best friends.

It is simply not something that happens overnight as many lover situations do. To turn your best friend into your lover would take dedication, honesty, and hard work to make the relationship last and if it didn't, not only is your lover relationship out the door but you also lose the best friend that you had in the beginning.

How many relationships start out as best friends go to lovers than back being best friends? It just doesn't happen that way.

If you're unfaithful to your lover, your best friend usually knows. If your lover is your best friend and you're unfaithful, than what do you have? Now, that's not saying that your lover can't become your best friend, that's a whole different ballgame.

May 05, 2010
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What are your intentions for this relationship?
by: chocol8quneen

What are your intentions for this relationship? Do you really want to risk losing the best friend you ever had because of a failed attempt at a relationship you never intended on cultivating in the first place.

Ask yourself, will losing this person affect me if things don't go well?

On the other hand there are those once-in-a- lifetime-moments, when you just know that you have found "the one".

If your intention is to settle down, find room for marriage and kids in our life and your bestie has shown potential, then by all means make your move. But if you're only looking for a bootie call, leave your friend out of it.

May 05, 2010
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Your partner is your best friend
by: Mort

In my opinion, it is not only good to have an attraction to your partner, because over time this attraction may decline, and than the relationship will need to depend on other things.

The second reason why I think it is important, is because it is very important that the couple really understands each other and have a mutual interest in things, so that they can do stuff together that both of them enjoy to do.

Now should you try and see if you and your best friend can have a relationship? I think that you do not want to be in a situation where you ask yourself what if... and than re-grating not trying to have something.

May 05, 2010
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Best friends are poor lovers
by: Anonymous

Best friends make bad lovers because they are simply friends.

I have been in a situation in which, I was friends with this guy for 10 years and then we went on to a relationship.

The relationship was a whole lot different. Whereas in friendship, one does not expect a lot and one does not allocate a similar emotional investment, a commitment takes it to a different level wherein expectations increase.

Men are simply incapable of going up to a higher notch. They think they would like a relationship, but in reality they just like security but are not willing to invest more than what they have given during the friendship stage.

Thus, The woman is left to grapple the fact that they are lovers yet the responsibilities of the boyfriend is just like that of a friend.

May 05, 2010
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Is it worth the risk?
by: MaciMay

Often times best friends can become the best lovers. However, you must be ready to accept the fact that your friendship may be ruined if the relationship doesn't work out.

Is it worth risking?

Some people may be able to continue being friends after a failed attempt at becoming more than just friends, but in this situation the odds are against you. There will just be too much awkwardness and hurt feelings between the two of you.

On the other hand, if the relationship continues to grow and flourish, it can last forever.

If you started out as best friends, then you obviously trust this person and enjoy spending time with them. It will also work to your advantage because you probably have a lot in common and know each others likes and dislikes.

If true love is at stake, I would say that it is worth giving it a try. Like they say - "it is better to love and lose than to never have loved at all!"

May 05, 2010
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It is a great idea to turn your best friend into a lover
by: Anonymous

I think if both parties are on the same page it is a great idea to turn your best friend into a lover. But be prepared for what might happen if it doesn't work out.

I tried it once and he quickly realized that it wasn't going to work. I wanted to continue but he didn't want to and now it is extremely awkward.

We are still friends and I see him dating other girls and it's weird for me. Every girl wants to marry someone who is her best friend, she just has to make sure he wants the same thing.

May 05, 2010
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Best Friends Make the Best Marriage
by: Scarlett Kitty

I think it could be a good idea if you and your friend became close enough to become lovers.

It would deepen your relationship, bringing you closer together and good friends usually share everything. Even better, it could lay the ground work for something more - such as your relationship evolving into a true couple which in turn could turn into marriage.

Best friends make the best married couple and if turning your friend into a lover is the way to go, why not give it a chance as it may be very well worth it.

The only downside would be that if you two have a fight over it and you end up parting ways, you could lose your best friend. So be careful if you do or don't do it.

May 05, 2010
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Love is heaven
by: Muneer

I have two girl friends. One is from my relation, she is beautiful and good minded 35 years old unmarried woman. I understood she like me very well. Our love is very hard and deep. Our soul contact every time like as if we were made for each other.

Other one of my two girl friend is from south Africa. She is married woman. She told me her husband - he is from Kenya and he hate her. We met from internet chatting. She is black beauty, slim sexually sounded woman. She like to marry me.

Next December, I would like to go to South Africa, and see her, I will marry this two girl friends, and I bring this two to my home. Because The love is beautiful and heavenly.

May 05, 2010
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It Worked For Me
by: Matt

My current girl friend and I have been dating for about 16 months. While I realize that isn't enough time to properly discern whether we are "soul mates," I simply want to share my story.

We began as best friends, close to two years ago.

We became closer and closer until we realized that the only place our relationship could go was to a romantic relationship. I eventually asked her out, and honestly, it has been the best choice I have ever made. Being friends beforehand allowed us to see just how compatible we really were.

Since we began dating, we have grown closer in so many ways. I know that a lot of people don't think it is a great idea, but really it is personal preference, and it can work for anyone who makes an honest attempt.

May 05, 2010
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I think it's a bad idea
by: Anonymous

I really think it's a bad idea to turn your best friend into a lover. Basically, by doing that, you turn your back on a best friend, even though you actually get closer to him/her.

In most cases it turns out to be a disaster, because when love happens, jealousy happens too, and when you lose your lover, you lose your best friend as well.

And the most important thing to know, is that best friends relations between two different sexes happen when one is or was secretly in love to the other one. This makes it obvious, that if you're the one thinking about turning your best friend into a lover, you are the one that secretly loves the other one.

May 05, 2010
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Disagreements
by: kevin

I think that it's absolutely ludicrous that there remain so many pretenses about turning a friend into your soul mate.

There isn't, and there really doesn't exist, any accessory difficulties to turning a friend into a partner that amount to levels more than turning anyone else into a your gf/bf.

Actually, it is much easier to evolve a relationship into a more intimate tone with someone you have already been acquainted with and befriended.

Solely, it is only a matter of evolving the relationship slowly, as it may seem a little awkward at first. Other than that, if your chemistry aligns closely with your partner's, it will be relatively easy to strike up a bond. Most likely, if you're compatible as friends, you'll more fluidly progress to a more serious relationship.

May 05, 2010
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I generally agree
by: Anonymous

I agree with the general premise of the article. There are certainly specific situations where it is possible to transition from a close friendship into a romantic relationship. Presumably, if you are already close friends, you share common interests and a certain intimacy with your potential future sexual partner. This familiarity will make it easier to develop the confidence and understanding to be compatible lovers.

Of course, the biggest potential barrier to reaching this stage in a relationship is differing expectations from the two friends. For example, there will always be people who are afraid of ?wrecking? the friendship if the romantic relationship falls through.

Further, one friend may be comfortable with exploring and deepening a romantic relationship over time while the other friend is only interested in a casual sexual relationship with no further aspirations. It seems like it would be critically important to discuss this issue before proceeding beyond friendship into territory where emotions could run high.

May 05, 2010
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Love is in the Air
by: Anonymous

I believe it can be a good idea to turn your best friend into your lover. I think it is better when you are lovers and then the person becomes your best friend but it can work either way.

One of the benefits of having your best friend be your lover is you can share in 2 of the most precious things in life romance and friendship. As with anything this can also be one of the worst two mixes in the world. If anything ever goes wrong you will be killing two birds with one stone and could easily lose a friend and a lover in a break up.

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