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Oct 26, 2010
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How To Tell If He Wants To Be A Friend Or Lover
by: RAJA

Its really a bit hard to find out whether a guy wants to be a friend or lover to a girl, but the way he behaves - we can find out the first thing is if he really wants to be friend he will be not be possessive.

If he is in love with you he will act very strange or sad when you talk to a other guy or talk about another guy to him. The way he speaks and way he spends with you especially if he a friend to you the time he spends to you will be as same as he spends with other friends and if he really loves you he will be with till the time you want to leave and he will do anything and everything for you.

Just see how many times he text messages or calls you and if he loves you he will never stop making those contacts and wants to meet you daily and he will also show some interest towards the topics of romance,love,marriage etc.

He will never talk to you about a girl even though if he likes her. Still it?s a little hard to know for sure if he loves you but within a month or so you can find out or tell whether a guy really wants to be a friend or a lover towards you

May 14, 2010
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How to know someone that wants more than friendship.
by: Seeker

Virtually,all friends wants to chat and tease each other.A just friend does not feel shy talking to his friend. He takes some statements of his for granted and is not quick to render apologies. So when a friend starts to apologize to you for every wrong step he makes, know for sure that he's becoming more interested in your love.

May 07, 2010
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My idea to help women who are reading this
by: mahesh

I noticed this article and just wanted to share some thoughts that may help women who are reading this.

My girlfriend and I began as friends. But there was something different about our relationship that slowly made us realize there was something more involved.

One of the first signs was that we began texting and communicating in general more often than we did with other friends. Eventually, I realized that I had romantic feelings for her and asked her out. However, before doing so, I tried to "test the waters" and make sure she felt the same way.

One of the things that I would do was text her things that two people who liked each other might say. For example, I once said "I really think you're awesome." It doesn't sound like much, but her reply made me realize the direction I should take

So my advice to you is to be aware of any advances a guy may make because he is maybe trying to see if you feel the same way about him.

May 07, 2010
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Identifying a friend and lover
by: lijajohn

A friend and lover always knows the value of love because a friend always love their friends and lover also love but the love differs for both of them. The difference between them are friends always interact with each other and lovers feel difficult to interact because feeling of more than a friend is generated and contacting the friends becomes difficult due to feeling of love that contains passion.

A lover shows more concern for the friend whom he/she love. It is very difficult to know whether the friend is in love but staring at a friend can help to know whether they are in love or not.


May 06, 2010
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It is Not Difficult to Tell
by: ANJANA

A friend is one who understand, cares, make us aware about our mistakes and in most cases guide us in a positive way. It is natural that,in such a condition our mind might be fluctuated. How is it possible to control our self or how to communicate it with them?

Most probably our body language might communicate it. In other cases we can tell that, these are the qualities that i expect from my partner or my partner should be like this.

A double meaning card should be send on Christmas day or on a birth day. Can give sweet precious gifts. These all indirect ways. Very easily we can directly communicate the matter in a friendly manner.

May 06, 2010
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Window to the Soul
by: Anonymous

There is one special way to tell if someone is interested in more than a mere friendship. Some may consider it speculation, but I have found it happen to me more than once, and it actually ?works?. It is said that the eyes are the window to the soul, to someone?s inner self.

If an interest exists, whether it is surface attraction or something deeper, even love, it can be seen through "the look in the eyes".

You will notice that someone interested (but trying to hide it) will avoid eye contact. They do not want to be discovered and rejected. The other extreme is that they have discovered the power of the eyes and try to use it on you, hoping to mesmerize and attract you through deep eye contact.

You can use a little bit of that power yourself, if you are interested. Make eye contact, and don?t lose it. Your eyes can sometimes say even more than words. Tell them so, not with words, but through that inner connection that you will feel. You might be amazed and pleased with the results.

May 06, 2010
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Make that Approach, a Step at a TIme
by: prakash

The 1st love with someone is really a very exceptional feelings. It's a great true that every one wants to get his/her beloved one. For this to approach him/her is a very important fact. In most cases the sudden and unwanted starting gives better results.

First of all it is better not to take any risk. It is safe to approach first for friendship. For this he or she can make a small acting to want some help from him/her. For instance he/she can ask for a pen or anything. Later on understanding the situation one or two days an approach for friendship.

One should always try to make his/her lover that he/she loves a lot but don't want to tell. Some cute and nice gifts often leads the process faster. He/she should share the simple and emotional facts with his/her lover in order to make understand that he/she trusts him or her from heart. If the love is true and the very guy doesn't love anyone else, within a short time he/she will be impressed and fall in love. Then at a suitable moment or occasion proposal should be given.

May 06, 2010
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Signs that he wants to be your lover
by: Anonymous

A friend wants to be a lover if he spends more time with you than usual or if he spends more time with you than his hobbies.

I had a friend for 8 years, who all of a sudden just wanted to hang out with me everyday. I found this surprising but did not give it much thought. Later on, he would make plans for our lives and I was surprised as I did not know that I was part of his future. His plans were general, such as in ten years ? hopefully we would have gone to Europe and have went to a cruise.

I was taken aback at why I was included in his plans. Later on, if I told him I would want to be alone for a few days, he would get very cranky. I confronted him soon and found out he liked me. It did not turn out well as I had a boyfriend. These signs definitely show one that he is looking into more than a friendship. Perhaps, I was just too naive.

May 06, 2010
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Friends or more?
by: Anonymous

This page is so right on the fact that friends do not hold back on telling you something of teasing. As far as signs of a friend wanting more then friendship I would have to say he or she would act in a different manner towards you. They might treat you nice or they might pick on you more than others. I would have to say that every person is different which makes this question a hard one.

May 06, 2010
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Funny but here is my story
by: vijayalakshmi

Having a friend, whoever it may be, a girl or a guy, is always an enjoyable period of life. That too in an adult age will be very interesting. We would have come across many such happenings of tell-tale stories in our time. I would like to share one such incident of mine.

I had lots of friends and two among them were very close to me during my college days. Both were guys and were friends right from their childhood. It so happened one day that i found both of them fighting on the college ground on something and as soon as they saw my head they hugged each other as if they were just playing.

Gradually i started watching them and came to know there existed some cold war between them all these days and the reason was both of them fall in love with me. The way they pretended to admire me on a competition between themselves was very interesting and funny.

May 05, 2010
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Try not to be scared.
by: Max2010

After reading this article and some of the comments, I thought I would share my insight as a male.

I generally am the same way when it comes to liking women. I shy up, I get quiet, and try not to let them know at first that I have an interest in them.

I used to know a woman who was a really close friend of mine and we talked and chatted every day. As time progressed, I started noticing more about her and I became more quiet. Eventually I did not hardly talk to her at all.

She became very angry at me and wanted to know why I was being the way I was. I told her how I felt and she became even more upset and we are no longer friends. I guess what I am trying to say is that even though you may be scared or shy, you should not totally neglect your feelings or hide them or you may end up losing in the long run like I did.

I have learned my lesson since then and not as afraid to let a woman know how I feel about her.

May 05, 2010
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How to tell a woman is interested in you
by: rupa

Nowadays, boys and girls move very freely. So, when we get very close to a person whom we like and whom we admire, it is possible that our friendship turns to a romantic love relationship.

As this relationship has started from friendship, it is difficult to let the other person know that we are in love with him. However, we can let the person know easily that we are in love with him by showing some extra care, love and affection for him.

Another easy method is to show our possessiveness to him. When he seems to get interested in any another girl, we should show our regret in some way. This would definitely pass on the signal about our love.

May 05, 2010
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His Attitude towards you will change
by: Anonymous

I had a friend for almost 5 years who was just a friend. He had his life and I had mine. For four years, he would call on and off, we would laugh, argue, fight, but will go back to our respective life. He would always talk about other friends, or whats happening in his career, or would tease me, or something totally unrelated to our lives, like presidential elections.

Lately, his attitude has changed. He started complementing me. He has started noticing my smile, my eyes. He passes comments about how I am the perfect girl, how he would want to propose to a girl like me. He comes almost every other day to talk to me. It is so clear that before he wanted to be just a friend, and now he wants more than that!

May 05, 2010
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Speaking from experience
by: Ann

I don't want to come off as conceded or anything, but I have often had my male friends fall for me.

I tend to notice the signs pretty early on, and although they can vary depending on the person there are a few that go across the board.

If a guy calls you for no reason, or shows up to hang out when there's no activity planned (and I don't mean because he's bored), there's a good chance he's into you. If he starts to go out of his way to learn about stuff you are into, or to do things with you that you can tell he doesn't really like, he's into you. If he goes out of the way to tell you a random story, that ends with how he stopped an argument about why he hangs out with you instead of the guys with ?she's hot? he is trying to let you know, he thinks you are hot and he wants to see how you react to that.

Lastly, if he starts introducing you to friends by just your name, and not this is my friend so and so, he wants more than friendship.

May 05, 2010
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Is He Into You?
by: April

This article is a good start to understanding the difference between friends and lovers. The great thing is that many friendship can indeed turn into great relationships (romantic). And you can have some of both (friendship and romance) in your relationship with the other person. It is very satisfying.

Ways that I can usually tell a guy likes me is by dilated eyes. They will appear larger. He will also take a lot of time to talk to me, he usually tries to make jokes to get me to laugh, and in general seems to want to impress me. I actually find that it is quite common for a guy to really tease a girl if he really likes her. I think different guys show it in different ways.

When it comes down to it, if you are interested in him, but not sure, you should drop hints and see if he comes around. If you really want to become close to a guy and take steps from friends to lovers, then you should really focus on knowing him and becoming a good friend.

I've found that some of the best relationships ever are those that are based on friendship coming first. This is based on my own experience.. I've had a great time falling in love with my best friend!

May 05, 2010
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Does S/He Wants to Go Out on dates?
by: Mandy

I think this article has a lot of good information. I would also add that another good way to tell if he wants to be a friend or lover is how you two pay for things like movies and dinner when you hang out.

If he wants to be friends, then you two will probably 'go Dutch' and pay for your own meals separately. But if he's into you, he'll offer to pay the whole check or for both movie tickets.

Also, look at the company you two keep while hanging out. If you're going in large groups, then he wants to be friends. But if he insists on just you and him going, then he's interested in you.

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