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True Friendship Still Exists - True StoryFriendship, it has different definitions for different people. I have my own too. The topic seems a bit cliché to talk about or even discuss, as lots has already been said about it. So I would like to share with you an incident which taught me that BIG LESSON - This happened a long time back in 1999, to be precise. I had just finished my schooling and I joined one of the reputed colleges in my city for graduation. I was very excited to be at a new place with an entirely refreshing atmosphere, unlike the one I had experienced so far. And my excitement heightened when I saw one of my childhood friends in my class. His name was Daniel. His family lived in our neighborhood for a couple of years when we were kids. Daniel and I became pretty good friends before he moved out of our neighborhood. I was surprised when Daniel recognized me the moment he saw me. We hadn't seen each for many years. After the class was over, we went to a cafe and talked about the things happened in our lives since we separated. As accommodation at college hostel was not yet confirmed Daniel invited me to his room. He said I could stay there as long as I wished. I felt very lucky to be friends with him. My family was not rich; many times I struggled to pay my college fees on time.
Besides, I earned significantly less money from my part-time job. Most of the time, I had little or no money in my wallet. I never told Daniel about my problems and struggles, I didn't want to be a burden to him anymore. That was when one of my college-mates introduced me to gambling. He pretended like he wanted to help me and said that gambling would end all my financial problems. Therefore I resorted to gambling away the little money I had made from working part-time, just hoping to make some good money to ease the financial burden of paying my college fees.
In the beginning, fortune favored me and I earned some pretty easy money. Soon I became addicted to gambling. When Daniel heard about my gambling interests, he tried to persuade me to stop it. He warned me many times not to do it again but I never listened to him. It was smooth sailing for me until the night I got into trouble. My good luck had vanished and I lost all my money, which amounted to about $20000 in sports gambling. I was left without a single dime in my pocket. I was heartbroken and I felt like a worthless piece of crap. When I told Daniel about my bad luck, he tried to console me. I was very ashamed about myself. Had I listened to my friend earlier, I wouldn't have been in that situation. I apologized to him and promised him that I would never gamble in my life. Daniel said that he would pay my college fees till I find a regular source of income. His words taught me that true friendship still exists. The real worth of true friends is known when we fall on bad days. Those who stand by us through thick and thin are our real friends. So Daniel was a friend indeed. A Friend In Need is a Friend Indeed". - T. Risgby So what are the characteristics of true friends?
A true friend supports your decisions no matter how far-fetched they think they are and even when they do not agree with you. They will give you their opinion, but they know that your decisions affect your life, not theirs. The friendship that you have with this person allows you to make your own decisions and know that if those decisions are not the right ones, you will never have to hear ‘I told you so' from them.
A friend who has been there through the worst times and the best of times of your life will continue to be there no matter what you are facing. They have seen you when you were at the bottom and when you rise to the top. They understand when you are not at your best and they will still be there waiting for you to come around because they know that you will. They know that we all have mood swings because they've been there too.
When you need to rant about something, a friend will listen until you get it off your chest. Venting is refreshing to the soul. It makes you feel better once you get everything out and they stand by and listen until you are finished. Other related pages
They may offer a suggestion; however they know that you will ultimately work it out on your own. The best thing of all - after the ranting and raving is over - you will feel better because you know you are talking to someone who actually cares about how you feel.
Friends do not put you down or tell you that your ideas are stupid. They do not treat you unfairly. Friendship does not include fighting with you or trying to tell you what to do or how to feel. They do not ever hit you in anger or swear at you or abuse you in any way. They do not let anger come between the friendship that you share. They will not refuse to speak to you or take your calls because of a disagreement. Friends know that it is okay to disagree - that is what makes people interesting. It would be a very boring world if everyone was the same.
Friends are always there even if it is by telephone. If you need them they will be there. They are willing to listen if you are sad or happy or if something is bothering you no matter if it is 3 a.m. They have a shoulder if you need to cry. They have a hug to let you know that everything will work out even when it seems that the worst has happened.
True Friends Understands and Respects Your Strength and Limitations
A friend will love you no matter if you live in a mansion or a one bedroom apartment. They do not care if you drive a clunker or the latest model. They will be friends with you regardless of the way you dress, eat or dress. You may wear jeans all the time or you may wear designer clothing. All of these things are superficial and have nothing to do with who you are as a person. A true friend knows this and it does not matter to them. In this respect, the material things you own or how well off you are does not matter. They are also not jealous of your lifestyle. Friends can span all economic classes. If you live across the country from your friend it does not matter. When you are reunited, it is as if you just saw them yesterday. Friendship can survive distance and time. Even if you have not talked for months, when you call or see each other, the bonds are still there as strong as ever.
They enjoy going to the movies, the mall, going for a walk or spending time listening to music. Friends are people that you genuinely like and even if you are just sitting around and talking, you have a good time catching up on things and exchanging stories about things that have happened. You can laugh over the same things and cry over the same movie. The time passes quickly when you are with a friend.
The world is full of all kinds of people. You may be shy and quiet. You may be the type of person who makes their opinion known no matter what. You may be strict about everything in your life being organized or you may just let things go until you have to arrange them. They do not expect you to be anything other than who you are. They do not try to change you to meet their expectations.
A friend is someone you trust. You can share your secrets and dreams. The things that are discussed stay between the two of you and a friend never betrays your confidence. You never have to worry that anything that you tell a friend will find its way back to you through a third party. They keep your secrets and know that you will do the same for them.
When you find someone with all the attributes described above you have found a true friend. Treasure them and remember that friendship works both ways. Try to be the friend to them just in the same way that they are to you. The number of real friends you have may not be high, but it does not matter. The most important thing that matters most is that you have found true friendship. And not a lot of people have that! So treasure it.
Friends in Times of Sorrow and HappinessWorld is full of friends who help one another in times of happiness but there few friends who really help in times of need. I have seen many people turning their back on their fellow men, when they needed them most. I myself have gone through such experience. I am an engineer by profession now, but my life was not like this before. I belong to a poor family. My parents raised me and gave me good education. But a time came when my parents could not bear the expenses of my college. They wanted me to leave my studies. They were not able to pay my college expenses. I have many friends, but as I have said that many people turn their back at the time of need. My father went to many people; he thought to be close to him, for borrowing money for my admission, but everybody refused to give him money. We did not have enough resources to borrow money from bank. Then my father went to his childhood friend. It is said that a friend in need is a friend indeed. His childhood friend not only gave him money for my admission but also helped me for getting a scholarship. He was truly his true friend. On another occasion my father got involved in a false case against him. My mother had no money for hiring a lawyer. Mother asked his sister and brothers for help but no one helped us but he, my father’s friends, helped us till the end of case. He paid the fees of lawyer and also took the expenses of my home on his own should. Although he had his own wife and daughter to look after yet he helped us a lot. I think he is the man, who would beside me and my father on every situation, no matter how serious it is. N.Graff Characteristics of True Friends - Watch this SpaceWatch this space; you might want to save it, why? Because soon, each week, we will be publishing one unique tip on how to be true friends with someone you love. Go to Nikenya homapage |
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