Faithful and True?
(Roseburg, OR , USA)
Unfortunately, things have changed a lot the last 20-30 years. Everything in the society and environment around us seems to promote selfishness and self-centeredness, which oppose faithfulness and truthfulness.
Rolls are changing, and women are acting more and more like men. Many men and women lie routinely.
People have no sense of themselves or their purpose. Because of this there seems to be a pervasive mentality that,"the end justifies the means." If you are of this school of thought, then I suppose you could be dishonest when completing a dating profile.
I don't personally belong to any dating sites (yet) but have female friends who do. I know that they have been truthful. After all, what the purpose in going through all the trouble to try to meet that right person/soul-mate, then be dishonest--which in all probability would be a deal breaker in the relationship once the other person realizes your not who they thought you were.
I can't speak for men, as I don't know any men who have joined dating sites. I will only say this, I have had committed, engaged and married men come onto me over the years.
If you look at the definition of "faithfulness": an unwavering belief in something or somebody to be consistently trustworthy and loyal especially to a person, promise, or duty;
not adulterous or promiscuous; not having sexual relations with somebody other than a spouse or partner--what person, male or female, would not want to be loved by somebody who is faithful? Furthermore, who wouldn't want to aspire to be this kind of person?
If you look at the definition of "truthful": honest; telling the truth or tending to tell the truth; accurate; corresponding to fact or reality--its obvious that truthfulness and faithfulness go hand-in-hand. In marriage, for example, being faithful is being true to your word (marriage vows).
As a single older woman, I may or may not be qualified to write about this subject, depending on how you look at.
I will say this: I do have a sense of worth and purpose. I am also cognizant that I am accountable for my actions. People who have known me say that I am faithful--and I am. I don't say that arrogantly. Though, like everyone else, I cannot say I have never lied.
What I can say is that I have been/am true enough to myself to know that I would not be able to settle for less than God's best for me--and that I have been faithful to that belief.
That said, despite reality, I would like to believe that women are faithful and truthful, if only when completing dating profiles.