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 Best Friend to Lover - Relationship Advice

Occasionally it happens; all over the world a lot of people find themselves in a situation whereby they come to the conclusion that they have developed romantic feelings for their best friend.

This isn't a bad thing, because one of the foundations of a healthy and solid relationship is friendship. Whose better to fall in love with than someone who has proven to you that they are a trusted and true friend?

 Best Friend to Lover - Relationship Answers

You already know that this person is loyal to you, and would be there for you. They have probably seen you through the bad times, and they have probably shared to most important moments of your life. So it's only natural that instead of searching high and low for a romantic partner, you'd want to take a friendship with your best friend, and expand upon it to make it romantic and meaningful.

However, the problem that most people face is how to turn a best friend to a lover. After the pattern of friendship has been established, it's very hard to get a friend to change their perspective and switch gears. Not only this, but...

There is always the terrible risk of losing a best friend when and if the romantic relationship ends. For some people, this risk is too hard to think about, so they decide that they'd rather hold on to a friend, instead of losing everything.

On the other hand, some people decide that their romantic feeling for their best friend is worth taking a risk for. Based upon that, they are more than willing to put everything on the line for a chance at lasting love with their best friend. So, if you are a person who has decided to play winner-takes-all romantically speaking with their best friend, then here are some strategies to keep in mind:

How to Turn Your Best Friend to Lover

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  • 1.) Stop being the shoulder to cry on:

The shoulder to cry on title is reserved for someone who invokes no romantic feelings. This person will also be the first point of contact for all of the other person's dramas and messes. It's important that if you are going to change your friend's perspective about you, then you can't be their wet nurse anymore. This doesn't mean that you can't be a good and caring friend. This means that you should be a little aloof when reacting to their latest romantic or life dramas.

  • 2.) Step things up physically in their presence:

The only way that a best friend will become a romantic partner is if they can view you with fresh eyes. This means that if you are a guy, you need to present yourself not in a manner that will make your female friend desire you.

If you are female, then know for sure that guys are physical. Get a new color or cut for your hair. Update your make up and wear it. Show off flattering aspects of your body. Once your guy friend literally sees a new you, you'll definitely get his attention.

  • 3. Flirt more:

Give your friend signals that you find them attractive in "that way". Touch them in teasing yet stimulating ways. Stand close. You get the idea. Of course by now, your best friend will either be puzzled, amused, engaged, or uncomfortable. If they give you negative feedback, then take it as a learning lesson and try to salvage your friendship.

Transforming your best friend to lover is not that easy or comfortable, however, hopefully if you use the above three tips and you succeed in getting a positive feedback, then congratulations on your new romantic relationship.

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