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A Comfortable Silence

Three years ago, I had a family crisis. My dad was facing criminal charges for a crime he didn't commit, and my life had become a tangle of lawyers, police, and social workers who were all trying to destroy my family.


At the time, I was a first year college student, so dealing with it was tough. I threw myself completely into school, so that if I wasn't dealing with familial obligations, I was either in class or studying for class. My social life became non-existent.

Only Ashley Knows about it

Just a few months before, I had really started to get close with my roommate, Ashley. We were both so busy with school and work that we didn't get to hang out much, but when we did, it was great. We realized that we had a lot in common and shared similar outlooks on life. It wasn't long before we knew almost everything about each other and had become best friends.

That's why I was so glad to have her when the issue with my dad happened. Since it was such an uncomfortable situation, so I didn't want to tell anyone. I ended up telling only Ashley. She understood that I am not one who shares my emotions openly, so she let me know that she was there for me and gave me my space. It meant the world knowing that not only could I go to her if I needed to, but also that she understood and respected me enough to not push the subject.

A Comfortable Silence

One particular night a few months later, I got the news that my dad had been convicted. I went back to my room, and even though I didn't cry, Ashley knew there was something wrong just by the look on my face. I was sitting at my desk staring at an blank computer screen, just trying to keep my cool. After a few minutes, Ashley dragged her chair across the room and sat next to me. She grabbed my hand, gave it a quick squeeze, and then just rested back in her chair. "I didn't have to say anything, explain anything. We just sat there, in this oddly comfortable silence."

That, to me, is friendship. Having such a deep relationship with someone that you don't need to say anything or do anything; knowing that no matter what happens, you have someone who will be there with you through thick and thin. A friend is someone who knows you so well that they know exactly what you need before even you do. And Ashley is that friend for me.

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