Tips on How to Get a Boy Friend Fast
Or Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
Let's be honest, depending on who you're with or have been with before, the dating process can be extremely awkward.
Even if you've only had one bad date, the memory of that less than pleasant experience with your ex boy friend can ruin future dates for you. Not only that, but since, for us women, relationships involve matters of the heart, it is much easier to set yourself up for emotional pain.
There is sometimes so much guesswork involved in relationships that most women I know of often wonder what the point is of trying to pursue a lasting relationship. Personally, I understand that. Weve been there. But, you dont have to stay single and avoid all men just because your last boyfriend turned out to be such a...
Girl, you need to breathe a new life into yourself. You are so much wonderfully created and the moment you step out and conquer the following obstacles that most women encounter on their quest for love, the sooner your true love comes knocking and literally begging to be your man!
Three Dating Myths
That Every Woman Must Decode
1.) Already anxious
Some people describe the feeling of first date anxiety as butterflies or flutters in the stomach, others just call is being nervous. Whatever you call it, it's no secret that some level of anxiety is to be expected on a first date. If you haven't quite figured out how to overcome this feeling, whenever your dream date is around, then you are not alone. Although its true that for the most part, the success of the first date really sets the stage for rest of the relationship, however, in some cases, people who had horrible first dates ended up laughing it off and are still married 50 years later.
Keep in mind that all dating anxiety isn't bad, in fact, that feeling of butterflies is often how you can tell if you are truly interested in the guy and that he is a potential boy friend in the making.
Oftentimes, if you don't feel any kind of nervousness, you probably don't think of the guy as anything other than a friend. So instead of trying to hide your feeling of nervousness, embrace them. Those feelings can really help you decide if you really have romantic feelings towards someone.
While it's true that this date could lead to a lifetime relationship, and eventually marriage, remember that a date is just a date. It's two people getting to know each other and seeing there is a deeper connection. If you feel like you're going to a big, "last chance" job interview, take a deep breath and relax. The worst that could happen is you never speak again, or maybe you will really hit it off and end up living happily ever after. Or maybe you will meet a great guy that you can set up with your best girlfriend. When it comes to dating, the possibilities are endless, so dont try to predict that outcome before the date even begins.
2.) Everybody makes mistakes
Ok, let's be honest, just because he asked you out, that doesn't mean he's picturing a future with you and that he is going to be the most wonderful boy friend that youve ever come across. How often have you said "yes" to a date, but mentally you said "I do"? If you're like most women, then you've probably done this more than once. As the author Jane Austen put it, "A lady's imagination is very rapid; it jumps from admiration to love, from love to matrimony in a moment." Try to stay in the moment and avoid mentally picking out names for your future children.
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After a certain age, most women are not only searching for a boy friend to just have fun with but are looking for a lifelong mate who they can love, have fun with and be able to trust.
You want a boy friend who is a gentleman, a man who will be a good father and friend, and who you can see yourself with for the rest of your life. This is not to say that women don't physically size up men, but women are usually more interested in the man's character and what type of person he will be 10 years down the road.
Chances are, you won't be able to stifle your womanly imagination, so you don't have to. But try your best to avoid jumping to conclusions so you won't scare off your date. Men can sense when you are getting too involved too soon, and this usually makes them feel pressure, and as a result they get nervous and start to avoid you. Just play it cool and let him pursue you.
3.) Be Yourself
Does this sound familiar? Your date says he likes golfing, you say you like it, even though you dont know the difference between a putter and 9 iron. Your date loves summertime, and even though you love fall, you change your mind on the fly and decide that summertime is in fact the superior season. Two words: be yourself. Your date doesn't want to date the female version of himself. Instead he is looking for someone to challenge and compliment his personality. He is interested in having a good girlfriend as much as you are interested in having a good boy friend.
Instead of trying to be his twin, be who you are, and let him be attracted to your personality.
Without fail, men hate to be ignored and a cell phone is good at helping most women to ignore their boy friend and stay hooked on the phone for hours. And without fail most women usually have their Blackberry in hand at all times. Try putting your phone away while you are with your date. When he knows he has your full attention, he will relax and give you his full attention, and he wont get aggravated with your toys.
If you are trying to get your dream guys attention, dont give up.
Here are a few things you need to know as youre trying to get a potential boy friend to fall for you.
Many times women are so excited that they are dating someone or that they are getting hooked up with their dream boy friend. Such women clear their schedule and decide to be available every second. If you are constantly glancing at your phone hoping that he will call or text you, then you might as well wear a shirt that says, I do not respect myself. Instead of handing the guy the upper hand, keep your cool and dont jump every time he says to. He will be intrigued by you independence, and that will make him want you even more.
Men cannot resist a woman who truly acts like a woman. This doesnt mean you should act like a bimbo, but it is ok and completely acceptable to use your womanly wiles to your advantage. In most cases, most men dont want someone who is just like him, so the more you play up your feminine side, the more he will be attracted to you and the more likely he will end up being your new boy friend.
Depending on who the object of your affection is, he may be used to women chasing after him and inflating his ego. Well, if everyone is chasing him, back off and let him chase you. Although men might temporarily enjoy being chased by women, after a while, he will get tired of that type of attention. It will take patience and dedication, but it will be worth it when you get the guy. Or should I say, when the guy gets you.